To be a social magnet you need to be socially in tune with others. So what does ’emotional intelligence’ look like socially?
“Empathy is the experience of understanding another person’s condition from their perspective. You place yourself in their shoes and feel what they are feeling.”
Do you have what it takes to be a social magnet?
Consideration of Feelings
Change the way you speak to people. Be aware of how they are behaving. Identify how they are feeling and frame your conversation to create a safe and friendly social setting where they feel relaxed and open.
Recognizing how people are feeling and understand why they are feeling that way and then responding appropriately will create a non-threatening and trust environment.
People will be more open with you when you appear to understand them and aren’t dismissive of what they see as important. Put their needs first!
Listening and learning
Discover what people perceive and what they see as real and how that impacts their behaviour and performance. This is helpful to learn how to support and work with that person to empower them to reach their potential.
Respect is earnt by sharing ‘your’ experiences: both failures and successes. This shows you are human and you understand where the other person is coming from, what they need to do to grow and overcome the barriers that are holding them back
Take this FREE EQ test to help you discover more about emotional intelligence. This test is not an accurate scoring of you emotional intelligence but a tool to use as part of your journey of self-development.
To evolve as a person you need to constantly work on improving your emotional intelligence. The benefits are far reaching. Your life will be enriched both personally and professionally. The investment in yourself is one that will continue to pay dividends.
Good luck and remember a strength only becomes and stays a strength if you work on it.
Originally posted 2016-01-08 13:11:31.